Introvert

Anger anyone?

I rarely get angry but I don’t think it’s because I’m introverted. Beyond introvert/extrovert there are other temperament classifications. To see a comparison of different types of temperament systems look at this article on my other website — I’m gonna keep on looking.

But here is one of my coaching emails dealing with anger:

The reader writes: Thank You So Much! I have taken the temperment (personality test) from one of Florence Littauer’s books (HOW TO GET ALONG WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE) and came out as a strong Melancholy, followed closely by Choleric with almost no Sanguine and just a few Phlegmatic traits. As the typical Melancholy might I’ve always tried to understand who and why I am and how to get along better with others, since I do not! get a long well. Your article was very enlightening and helpful. Now if I can just apply what I’ve learned I might cope better.

And I answered: The melancholy/choleric combination is a very detailed person with a strong drive to accomplish whatever is ahead of them. Unfortunately, it also has the potential to combine the strongest negative traits - criticism and anger. A melancholy/choleric MUST realize that they are not always right (even when it seems SO clear that you are - to you!) and that other’s ways of doing things are okay (even when they seem careless and un-directed).

You will work better with other Cholerics who respect your level of detail. You would do well to cultivate a few Phlegmatic friends who will accept you as you are - and give them the space in your life to (gently) offer you their input on your ideas.

Let me know if I can answer any other questions.